Pet play

Puppy, kitten and pony play – the Pet archetype.

Pet play is a form of roleplay in which one person takes on the role of an animal – most often a puppy, kitten or pony – and another the role of owner, handler or trainer. It can be playful and non-sexual, deeply submissive, or both; what unites it is the headspace: letting go of language, decisions and human self-consciousness for a while.

What is pet play?

Puppy play has grown into its own community with moshes (play sessions), socials, hoods and tails, and a strong presence at fetish events from Folsom to Berlin. Kitten play tends to be softer and more domestic; pony play is more structured, with tack, training and shows.

For pets the appeal is freedom and care; for handlers it is nurturing and control. It overlaps with submission and dominance, with bondage (collars, leashes, cages) and with roleplay in general.

Signs this might be your kink

  • A collar and leash – on you or on a partner – is a thrill.
  • You find the idea of crawling, fetching or being petted relaxing rather than silly.
  • Pup hoods and tails make you curious rather than uncomfortable.
  • You enjoy taking care of someone – or being taken care of – without words.

How to explore it safely

  • Decide which animal and which role – pet, handler, both – and talk about whether it is sexual.
  • Gear is optional: a collar and a headspace are enough to start.
  • Pup moshes and socials are a welcoming way in and need no partner.

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